Forum Ass./IG Binational

hier mal was in englisch – einfache rezepte, aber anwendbar....

Every couple has differences. Inter-cultural couples just have more of them.
Dr. Susan Heitler
What can be done about the reality that cross-cultural coupling means that the loving partners will face many issues about which they differ?

The good news is that resolving differences in a way that yields a solution that both partners like is mainly a matter of technical skills at shared problem-solving. Learn the three steps for turning His-Way versus Her-Way conflicts in Our-way solutions and life together can flow smoothly.

http://www. internationalcouples.net/blog/2012/05/every-couple-has-differences-inter-cultural-couples-just-have-more-of-them.html

bingo! sehr gut!

"Bonnie and Bernie at first fell into the trap of arguing over whose way was preferable. Big mistake.

What helped?
1. Change winner-loser, right-wrong conceptual frameworks to Both Are Right thinking.

2. Let go of tug-of-war games. Switch to exploring underlying concerns.
... exploring the underlying concerns ...

3. Create a win-win plan of action.
... avoided the trap of agreeing to compromise ... By contrast win-win problem-solving yields a plan of action responsive to all the concerns of both parties to the conflict. No one "won" their original solution. Both "won" in the sense of having created together a solution responsive to the concerns important to each of them."


sind wohl die bücher auch so gut? dann könnten wir das besprechen. :D